Lately I’ve spent a lot of time looking at the feeds of gurus, coaches, leaders, teachers, philosophers, and ultra thinkers and it has prompted me to wonder what it is that I am all about. Especially as a life coach. My first reaction to almost anyone’s teaching is “No thank you.” I reject almost anything I’m told straight out of hand. I don’t even have to understand what it is that is being preached I just know it isn’t for me. At least at first, but then I wonder, “How’s my life going? Is my life going so super well that i couldn’t use the experience and advice of an expert or two” Where does all this fear in me come from? Every good thing that has ever happened to me was someone else’s suggestion. Stand up comedy, it’s been my career for the last 30 years and it was a suggestion of my mother’s, not my idea. I resisted it. I was wrong. Co-writing the book He’s Just Not That Into You, not my idea. I resisted it. I was wrong. Life coaching, not my idea. It’s what I’m doing now. So my first instinct is usually dead wrong. What I have to do is take an opposite action to almost every one of my own first ideas. Stay in bed, get out of bed. Don’t work out, go on a 7 mile hike. Don’t write, write this blog post. I’ve been looking into people who do it differently than me and am starting to see the value in what they do. Especially when my first thought is to reject them out of hand. Sometimes these days I turn it over to the universe and say, “I’m outta ideas, show me something. Point me in a new direction.” and it works. But if you are stuck, try breaking a pattern and taking an opposite action. That’s all I know today but I’ll let you know when I know more.